Beyond coping with divorce to thriving at life

Time to Get Beyond Coping with Divorce! by RuthAnne

It’s hard to believe that I have been in my new house for two years now! I have been “officially” divorced for nearly two years and living apart from my now ex-husband for almost three years. What this means, Rolf, is that for three years I have been coping with divorce, struggling and stressing and generally steeping in misery while trying to raise two young boys on my own and at the same time trying to figure out what the heck I am going to do to support us. (Oh yeah, and I have been lurching through some pretty pathetic dating escapades as well!)

Needless to say, I have been sick (really sick with some pre-cancer scare stuff) and tired (exhausted actually) and crying (complete with the resultant puffy eyes and headache) all the time.

So thank goodness I am ready to do something (anything!) different. It’s time to get beyond coping with divorce! (I bet you are thinking the same “Thank Goodness!” It must be pretty hard to constantly be pulled down to wallow in my mud.)

I am looking forward to our conversation as I pull myself up and out of my self-concocted misery and back into my life.

Bon Voyage! by Rolf

RuthAnne, congratulations for making it through these past two years! I know they’ve been challenging for you in so many ways. I’m so thrilled that you are ready to “do something different.” (For YOUR sake, not for mine.) Being your friend has always been easy – some friendships are like that.

One of the great things you’ll learn along the way during this dialogue of ours will be why I’ve NEVER felt pulled down to wallow in the mud by our friendship – not once. But we’ll get to that later!

Your strong desire for change and your openness to seeing your life from a fresh perspective will serve you very well as you learn to go beyond coping with divorce. And I think you’ll find it to be a lot less work and effort than you imagine. You won’t be “pulling yourself up” so much as learning from your own insights.

The beautiful thing about human insight is that it requires no effort, no energy. There are no limits to how many we can have in our lifetime, and yet, as you will see, a simple insight can change everything. You’ll absolutely love transforming from a woman struggling with divorce to a woman thriving at life. I promise!

Bon voyage!